The day hasn’t come yet, but I know it will.

One day your heart will ache…badly. Someone you trust will betray you or hurt you.

And I can’t change that.

I’m not here to stop you from getting hurt, although I wish I could carry that pain for you. What I can do is tell you from (very extensive) experience the one thing that nobody else will tell you:

My heart has never, ever been broken.

And neither will yours.

But it will probably feel like it.

Hearts can get hurt in many ways. Friends may talk behind your back. Crushes may not reciprocate. Someone who told you they love you, may change their mind. Someone you love will come to the end of their time on earth.

Each of these things will hurt so badly that you will think that you can’t possibly recover. Your heart will hurt so badly that you won’t believe me when I tell you that it isn’t broken…but it isn’t.

As long as you are standing and breathing and loving…your heart is NOT broken.

It is bruised. Sometimes you get a small bruise and it goes away so quickly, you can’t even remember where it was.

Other times, a bruise is huge. It’s ugly and painful and you don’t want to leave the house. You get scared and angry and feel like you are going to die.

I’ve been there. It hurts.

But it will get better. Your heart will not break.

It may crack though. Sometimes the cracks never heal. Sometimes the cracks hurt a little bit when you touch them. Over time, you will learn not to touch them so much, but you know they are there and how to avoid touching them.

Some cracks are deep. You try to pick up the pieces and glue them back together as best you can. You are a little bit damaged…a little bit sensitive. You are different than you were before.

But you are not broken.

You are bruised…never broken.

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