There are almost 8 billion people in the world.

That’s 8 billion possibilities for human connection. 8 billion people who could hold your hand when you are sick. 8 billion people who might laugh at the same weird things that you laugh at.

But most of them won’t. And that’s ok.

Find your people.

Over the course of your life, you can count yourself blessed if you can find a handful of people that you can crack yourself open in front of and they won’t even flinch.

You can tell them the awful thing you thought, the crazy thing you bought, or the dreams that you sought…and they won’t judge you at all.

These types of friends are rarer than white peacocks and exponentially more precious. When you find one…never let it go.

Gather up your bad date stories, your big juicy life goals, and your most painful parenting fails and find someone who will listen to it all, laugh at it all and cheer you on through it all.

The number of “your people” will probably be small. Rather than having a yearbook filled with dozens of people saying, “Have a nice summer. I hope we have more classes together next year, ” you may have just a few people write paragraphs of memories and inside jokes on the front and back pages.

Quality over quantity. Friends over followers.

These are your people. Find your people.

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I believe this to be true.

As a kid, you make friends and you grow up with them. You have similar life experiences. You swim at the same pool. You have the same teachers. You build up years of shared experiences. You become BFF’s.

Best.

Friends.

Forever.

But don’t hang too tightly on that last part. Not all friendships last forever…and that’s ok.

Childhood friendships are fantastic. You learn life together. You grow up together. You share secrets and make plans.

But then, you grow up.

You develop your own values and interests. You realize that you like to read books, but your best friend likes to go to concerts. You want to put down roots in your hometown, but your best friend wants to experience the world.

You grow apart.

There are arguments for keeping the friendship going. It’s great to have a lifelong friendship with someone who grew where you grew, but if you grow apart…don’t beat yourself up over it.

The qualities that someone looks for in a friend at age 7 are very different than what they look for in a friend when they are 37.

The girl who you went swimming with at the pool may not be the best person to comfort you when you lose your job. The girl who liked to go on adventures in the forest may not understand why you work late after work because you are launching your own business.

And that’s ok.

Appreciate every person that enters your life…whether it is for 5 minutes, for your entire childhood, or for your entire life. (tweet this)

Say hello when you want to. Say goodbye when you need to.

And be ok with it.

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